Breastfeeding Challenges

For anyone who knows me, knows I wasn’t able to breastfeed as much as I really wanted. Before I even had a baby, I knew breastfeeding was not going to be as easy as everyone has led you to believe. I made sure I told my midwife that I knew it was going to be hard and I am glad I did because she told me about the free resources available to help new moms out.

But let me just say this: even though there are resources available to help you, it doesn’t always mean it will work out. And that is what exactly happened to me. We would go to the appointment every week hoping for a different outcome when we get home and had to do it all alone and it would never work out.

My son was able to properly latch on to my breast while I was at the clinic but when we would get home I wouldn’t be able to do it…and you know what happens when you have a bad latch…yeah, not fun at all.

Those days were long and hard. Even talking about feedings with my midwife at my postpartum checkups was hard and that is when she advised me to stop. Stopping did not help me mentally because I still felt guilty and it took a few days for me to overcome that guilt. But I want to get into why I felt guilty. It is society’s fault that we as women feel like we need to do everything that society deems is BEST for us and our babies. Well let me tell you, IT REALLY ISN’T!

The pressure is ridiculous and after trying my best and not pushing myself to have a mental breakdown, I don’t think I owe anyone an explanation. As a mother if you are not happy, it is not a good environment for your baby or your spouse/partner. Could I have tried harder to fix the issues I was having with breastfeeding? Sure. But should I have done that at the expense of what I was putting myself through mentally? NOPE.

Formula feeding my baby was the best decision I could have ever made. He is happy, healthy and gaining weight well according to his doctor and that is all that matters. If you are ever at this point and the guilt is taking over your mind, I want to say this to you: Do whatever works for you and your baby and do not let society dictate how you should be raising your child! Kudos to all you mamas and if you haven’t heard this in a while, you are doing a GREAT job!!

breast feeding. baby in the arms of the mother suckles. monochrome

10 thoughts on “Breastfeeding Challenges

  1. Awesome post! I had a very difficult time getting proper latches with both of my children. With my daughter I also did not produce enough milk no matter what I tried so I had to formula feed her. With my son I was able to pump the milk and bottle feed him the breast milk. All in all it was a very stressful topic for me as a mother.

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  2. This is such a relief for me to read. My husband and I are planning to start trying for our first baby in December. I have some medical issues that require prescription medication, and I have just recently found out that I will probably not be able to breastfeed because of it. Going off the medications is not an option, and my heart was really set on breastfeeding, and I felt so disappointed. But the important thing is that they’re healthy, fed, and happy, right? Thank you for sharing this – it made my day. 🙂 I look forward to seeing more from your blog.

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    1. Wow Amber, thank you for sharing something so personal! I am so glad I wrote about this and it helped you feel better! I know I was happy to share with anyone to make them feel better and let them know they are not alone! Good luck with everything, I wish you the best!

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  3. Breastfeeding is a challenge! I was able to breastfeed my son for two years but if it wasn’t for my older sister who had previously breastfed before me, I wouldn’t have made it! Like you said, once I left the hospital I was totally lost! It’s a selfless act that requires a tremendous amount of support!

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