Give each other space…
I believe one of the healthiest things you can do for your relationship is give your partner space as well as ask for your own. When I met my husband, we were both living very busy lives (he owns a business while I was also working a very time demanding job) so we knew if we wanted our relationship to work we BOTH would have to make time for each other. Back when my husband was my boyfriend, people thought it was very strange that we did not see each other more than 3-4 times a month sometimes. I knew it was normal for my own relationship and we were making it work for us. I feel we had more to talk about and it was always exciting seeing each other because we didn’t see each other that often. And because we put in a lot of effort into our relationship, we were happier!
I can’t say that I enjoyed it for the 4 years that we dated before we got married. And I’ll be honest, I made sure he knew about it. There are always times when you feel like you just want to be with your partner. No matter how many friends/family you have or how much you hang out with them, you still crave time with your significant other.
But how much space is good for your relationship with your partner? Only you can decide that for yourself.
If something would bother me, I would tell him so that he knew that communication was very important to me. I came from a dysfunctional family where my parents would never talk about their problems but would expect the other person to just read their mind. I knew from a very early age that this was not the kind of relationship/marriage that I wanted. My husband, on the other hand, closes up when it comes to discussing problems and goes very quiet. I have to push him to talk about it because the longer you take to talk about your problems, the easier it is to sweep them under a rug. I know this way doesn’t work for everybody but it is another healthy thing to do for your relationship.
What are some things you think are healthy for your relationship? Share with me and I will try them out! I am always looking for ways to make sure my relationship with my husband is getting stronger everyday!