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Just JUMP!

Have you ever felt like you need to do something to change your life?

I’ve been feeling like that for a while. I am nearing the end of my maternity leave and dreading going back to work. I knew I needed to do something that would be more fulfilling, financially freeing, as well as giving me more time to spend with my son.

It all started when I was watching The Steve Harvey Show. He has a new book out called Jump. Now helping him promote the book was Kelly Clarkson and she told the audience and the viewers at home how she JUMPED at the opportunity to write a children’s book. She did not have any experience in writing a book and yet she did it and that children’s book is selling like crazy.

Now I know we all don’t have a singing career to fall back on like Kelly Clarkson does, but I agreed with everything Steve was saying. If we don’t take the chance to do something that we know will change our lives, then we will be stuck in the same place, unhappy at the situation. It is never too late to take the chance on yourself!

 

Where does the time go?

As this week begins, I can’t help but think where did the time go? My son will be 9 months on Thursday and it’s hard to think about how I will be going back to work soon. My anxiety is through the roof…how did 9 months just fly by?

When I first started my maternity leave I thought it would be impossible to pass the time all day by myself and just a newborn. I was in for a rude awakening that was unmistakeable. I had no idea how much work a baby was going to be so I guess that’s where the first 3 months went. Seriously, oblivious…

Watching him grow up and learn his firsts has truly been amazing and I am glad I can take a year off to enjoy the time with him. But time is so fleeting. I try to enjoy the firsts but it is a constant reminder of how big he is getting and before I know it he won’t need me as much anymore.

The best lesson I can think of is to just enjoy the present for what it is and cherish the memories you’ve made so far. I try every night to look at the pictures and videos I’ve taken of my son that day. It really helps me laugh at all the good times we had that day (as well as show my hubby since he’s at work for most of the day)!

Is there something you do that helps you cherish these moments?

5 Tips to Reaching Your GOALS In 2017

I don’t make resolutions when the new year starts but making goals is something I enjoy doing. Writing down a list of things I would like to accomplish and then crossing them off gives me such satisfaction!

But there are times that my goals scare me and then I don’t reach them due to that fear. So, I came up with 5 tips to help me reach them and I hope they help you too.

  1. Make S.M.A.R.T Goals.
    • Your goals should be (S)pecific, (M)easurable, (A)chievable, (R)ealistic, and have a (T)imeline.
    • This will help you breakdown your goal into smaller steps so you can achieve them without losing motivation.
  2. Break it down into quarterly goals.
    • If you can cut your year into smaller increments, you now have 90 days to create your greatest year yet.
  3. Prioritize.
    • It is so easy to let life get in the way of your goals. But keep in mind, everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. Make the most of them whenever possible.
  4. Be Adaptable.
    • Because life will get in the way, it is best to adapt to your new situation and keep focusing on your goal rather than giving up altogether. Change up the plan to make it happen and go from there!
  5. Reward Yourself.
    • There is nothing wrong with a little positive reinforcement! Connecting progress to a reward is really great for motivation. It will push you to keep going and cross off the goals on your list.

I hope these tips help you reach your goals, big or small, this year. Do you have any tips that have worked for you that I can add to my list?

 

Baby’s first Santa Experience 

Happy Sunday folks! Today we went for our first ever Santa pictures. My husband and I have never as kids done them but we knew we wanted to start our own traditions once we bring new life into this world.

It made me so happy to do something like this because I always envied kids in my class who got to do that with their parents when I was in school. I love these little things that I get to do with my son. 

Now I wish the experience went smoothly but it didn’t! once my son realized that neither his mom or dad were holding him in their lap, he just had to turn around to see who it really was. He’s already scared of white beards and seeing Santa’s white beard right above his face really scared him! 

Hopefully, next year will be better but I love the pictures the photographer was able to capture from today. It was also nice to see other parents out with their kids all dressed up for pictures. There was such happiness in the air and it made me forget the stresses that the holidays usually bring! 

Check out one of our favorites below 🙂

Easy Butter Chicken Recipe

Growing up in an Indian family,  butter chicken was made pretty regularly. It is one of my favorite meals! It is usually served at a party or special occasion (at least according to my family. I found it hard to make so it was never attempted by me in the kitchen.

However, I did find an easy way to make it myself 🙂 Below are the steps to make it along with the ingredient list. This will make 6 servings and take 15 mins to prep and 45 mins to cook.

Ingredients:

  • 1 cup butter, divided
  • 1 onion, minced
  • 1 tablespoon minced garlic
  • 1 (15 ounce) can tomato sauce
  • 3 cups heavy cream
  • 2 teaspoons salt
  • 1 teaspoon cayenne pepper
  • 1 teaspoon garam masala
  • 1 1/2 pounds skinless, boneless chicken breast, cut into bite-sized chunks
  • 2 tablespoons vegetable oil
  • 2 tablespoons tandoori masala
  • biryani masala (optional)
  • dahi or plain yogurt (optional)
  • Patak’s Spicy Butter Chicken cooking sauce

Directions:

  • Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C).
  • Melt a few tablespoons of butter in a skillet over medium heat. Stir in onion and garlic, and cook slowly until the onion caramelizes to a dark brown, about 15 minutes.

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  • Meanwhile melt the remaining butter in a saucepan over medium-high heat along with the tomato sauce, heavy cream, salt, cayenne pepper, and garam masala. Bring to a simmer, then reduce heat to medium-low; cover, and simmer for 30 minutes, stirring occasionally. Then stir in caramelized onions.
  • While the sauce is simmering, toss cubed chicken breast with vegetable oil until coated, then season with tandoori masala and spread out onto a baking sheet. I like to add another secret ingredient that many don’t to take the flavour up a notch, which is biryani masala, as well as dahi (which is plain yogurt).
  • Bake chicken in preheated oven until no longer pink in the center, about 12 minutes. Once done, add the chicken to the sauce and simmer for 5 mins. The last ingredient you will add is Patak’s Spicy Butter Chicken cooking sauce. Simmer for another 5 mins before serving. Enjoy with rice or naan. 2016-11-21-16-32-24

If you do give this a try, let me know how it worked out for you 🙂

The Healthiest Things You Can Do For Your Relationship…

Give each other space…

I believe one of the healthiest things you can do for your relationship is give your partner space as well as ask for your own. When I met my husband, we were both living very busy lives (he owns a business while I was also working a very time demanding job) so we knew if we wanted our relationship to work we BOTH would have to make time for each other. Back when my husband was my boyfriend, people thought it was very strange that we did not see each other more than 3-4 times a month sometimes. I knew it was normal for my own relationship and we were making it work for us. I feel we had more to talk about and it was always exciting seeing each other because we didn’t see each other that often. And because we put in a lot of effort into our relationship, we were happier!

I can’t say that I enjoyed it for the 4 years that we dated before we got married. And I’ll be honest, I made sure he knew about it. There are always times when you feel like you just want to be with your partner. No matter how many friends/family you have or how much you hang out with them, you still crave time with your significant other.

But how much space is good for your relationship with your partner? Only you can decide that for yourself.

If something would bother me, I would tell him so that he knew that communication was very important to me. I came from a dysfunctional family where my parents would never talk about their problems but would expect the other person to just read their mind. I knew from a very early age that this was not the kind of relationship/marriage that I wanted. My husband, on the other hand, closes up when it comes to discussing problems and goes very quiet. I have to push him to talk about it because the longer you take to talk about your problems, the easier it is to sweep them under a rug. I know this way doesn’t work for everybody but it is another healthy thing to do for your relationship.

What are some things you think are healthy for your relationship? Share with me and I will try them out! I am always looking for ways to make sure my relationship with my husband is getting stronger everyday!

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Breastfeeding Challenges

For anyone who knows me, knows I wasn’t able to breastfeed as much as I really wanted. Before I even had a baby, I knew breastfeeding was not going to be as easy as everyone has led you to believe. I made sure I told my midwife that I knew it was going to be hard and I am glad I did because she told me about the free resources available to help new moms out.

But let me just say this: even though there are resources available to help you, it doesn’t always mean it will work out. And that is what exactly happened to me. We would go to the appointment every week hoping for a different outcome when we get home and had to do it all alone and it would never work out.

My son was able to properly latch on to my breast while I was at the clinic but when we would get home I wouldn’t be able to do it…and you know what happens when you have a bad latch…yeah, not fun at all.

Those days were long and hard. Even talking about feedings with my midwife at my postpartum checkups was hard and that is when she advised me to stop. Stopping did not help me mentally because I still felt guilty and it took a few days for me to overcome that guilt. But I want to get into why I felt guilty. It is society’s fault that we as women feel like we need to do everything that society deems is BEST for us and our babies. Well let me tell you, IT REALLY ISN’T!

The pressure is ridiculous and after trying my best and not pushing myself to have a mental breakdown, I don’t think I owe anyone an explanation. As a mother if you are not happy, it is not a good environment for your baby or your spouse/partner. Could I have tried harder to fix the issues I was having with breastfeeding? Sure. But should I have done that at the expense of what I was putting myself through mentally? NOPE.

Formula feeding my baby was the best decision I could have ever made. He is happy, healthy and gaining weight well according to his doctor and that is all that matters. If you are ever at this point and the guilt is taking over your mind, I want to say this to you: Do whatever works for you and your baby and do not let society dictate how you should be raising your child! Kudos to all you mamas and if you haven’t heard this in a while, you are doing a GREAT job!!

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Mom’s Day Off! 

I’ve been waiting for this day for about a month!! My friends and I booked a mobile spa day where the spa comes to your home!! I was beyond ecstatic! 

We decided we would each bring a bottle of wine and some food and just enjoy the day without our babies!! 

Now my question is, do you feel guilty when you leave your babies? I’m asking this because I feel like I never feel guilty and I feel horrible for it. 

My husband hardly ever leaves our son either but I think it’s cause he’s mostly a homebody and enjoys doing things at home. I don’t mind cause I’m always home with the baby. 

What are your thoughts on this topic? 


 

Sleep Training

Today my son woke up at 7:30 am and that is when I decided I needed to start sleep training him. It was like having an epiphany! Almost 7 months in is when I started to feel EXHAUSTED…exhaustion was leading to cranky mommy syndrome…and a cranky mommy is no good to anyone.

So, reading up on the Sleep Sense Program and another sample sleep training method someone on my husband’s side of the family was using, I knew what had to be done.

I had to get my son into a routine that I was in control of and not the other way around. This whole time my hubby and I were letting him call the shots for when he wanted to nap or when he was tired enough at night to call it a day. We could not let this go on LOL!

I know a lot of parents start sleep training early around 4 or even 5 months of age. I would’ve started early as well but I had my concerns. Concern 1 was what would we do if we had to go out to a party or dinner; Concern 2 was how would we be able to do this without letting him cry it out; Concern 3 was what if he isn’t ready…

Now I still have the same concerns but sheer exhaustion will make you change your mind! My husband and I decided we would just tell our families that they have to come to our home to watch our son if we need someone to or we would hire a sitter (I know it’s a simple solution and we could’ve come to it sooner but sometimes it doesn’t hit you until you really need it to).

Every thing I read said we may need to let him cry it out. I braced myself and asking a lot of my friends who have babies what they did helped me make my decision as well. I let him cry it out during his second nap and it was BRUTAL! He cried for a total of 30 minutes and I checked on him every 10 minutes to reassure him. However, at bedtime he slept much easier with crying for less than 5 minutes. I am hoping for an easier night because now my anxiety is through the roof!

Have you ever sleep trained any of your babies? Any helpful tips for me to try? Please leave a comment so I can test it out!

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